Now that I’ve had three ‘successful’ years as a husband, I feel justified in sharing unsolicited advice with the world about marriage.
Here it goes:
Every marriage is different.
While there are certain principles within Scripture and common sense ground rules that should inform our marriages, people are different and every individual marriage is unique.
That doesn’t mean we should never seek coaching and counsel, but I think it helps us understand the kind of coaching and counsel we should seek. If our marriage mentors or counselors are sharing ‘what works’ only from personal experience it should cause us to pause—what ‘worked’ for them may not work for everybody… but someone who helps to see the joy of Christ as the foundation of marriage and who can help work through the tough stuff of life without saying, “This is exactly what you need to do.” is someone who understands the unique nature of individual relationships.
And that’s my unsolicited advice for the day.
Check back tomorrow when I share what three years of marriage has taught me about women.